The Female Perspective: Mark Ruffalo and Feminism – Joy!

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I’ve been a fan of Ruffalo’s since “The Kids Are Alright,” it’s a good movie and he’s fun to watch in it. Then he played the Hulk in “The Avengers” movies and I liked him even more.  Yesterday was the day that my casual like of the actor turned to adoration.

All because of a simple Tumblr post.

Ruffalo is no stranger to standing up to feminism, he’s made comments here and there about the fact that girls need superhero toys too (having daughters, this is of particular interest to him) but just lately, it’s come to light that he is more than annoyed at the lack of equality, he’s downright pissed off.

Why is he pissed off you ask? Because of the “I’m not a feminist,” movement that has swept the nation. The way that the word feminist seems to evoke feelings of  ridicule, division and anger in both men and women. What makes me mad about the “I don’t need feminism…” movement? The fact that 98% of the reasoning is coming from an uneducated source. From people who only see the bad side of the movement and who do not see all the good it has done and nothing pisses me off more than an uneducated argument.

Sigh.
Sigh.
This is also known as being uneducated about what feminism really is.
This is also known as being uneducated about what feminism really is.

My voice does not carry as far as Ruffalo’s, so today, I want to thank him for his words:

My response to the ‘I am not a feminist’ internet phenomenon….

First of all, it’s clear you don’t know what feminism is. But I’m not going to explain it to you. You can google it. To quote an old friend, ‘I’m not the feminist babysitter.’ But here is what I think you should know.

You’re insulting every woman who was forcibly restrained in a jail cell with a feeding tube down her throat for your right to vote, less than 100 years ago.

Oh yes, thank you for that…hey, all those women (yes, I am targeting women) who think being a feminist is a bad thing, LISTEN UP.

You’re degrading every woman who has accessed a rape crisis centre, which wouldn’t exist without the feminist movement.

You’re undermining every woman who fought to make marital rape a crime (it was legal until 1993).

You’re spitting on the legacy of every woman who fought for women to be allowed to own property (1848). For the abolition of slavery and the rise of the labor union. For the right to divorce. For women to be allowed to have access to birth control (Comstock laws). For middle and upper class women to be allowed to work outside the home (poor women have always worked outside the home). To make domestic violence a crime in the US (It is very much legal in many parts of the world). To make workplace sexual harassment a crime.

In short, you know not what you speak of. You reap the rewards of these women’s sacrifices every day of your life. When you grin with your cutsey sign about how you’re not a feminist, you ignorantly spit on the sacred struggle of the past 200 years. You bite the hand that has fed you freedom, safety, and a voice.

In short, kiss my ass, you ignorant little jerks. ~ News.com.au.

Thank you Mark for saying exactly what I have been saying for years. What I continue to say on a regular basis and for what I continue to hear on a regular basis.

There is no shame in being a feminist. There is, however, shame in not knowing what was done FOR you to be in the position to complain about the word feminist. Learn your history ladies and stop stepping on feminism as if it’s a bad thing. Look back and see what women were force-fed in jails, women were raped and beaten and no one was held accountable.

UNTIL FEMINISM.

Instead of being spoiled little brats that whine about the feminists who go too far (and please, every movement has extremists, get over it), how about YOU stand up and YOU remind the world what feminism really is.

It’s the fight for equality.

BuzzFeed/ India/ Feminism/ Actress Kalki Koechlin
BuzzFeed/ India/ Feminism/ Actress Kalki Koechlin

I am a proud feminist who stands up for herself and what she believes in and it makes me frustrated and a little bit angry when people CHOOSE to be uneducated about what the movement means. Don’t choose ignorance, choose knowledge, choose education and realize that feminism has saved women, millions of women, from death, from abuse, from inequality.

So for all of this I thank someone like Ruffalo (and not just Ruffalo, there are MANY that fight the good fight for feminism and their words are heard loud and clear and I am grateful for them beyond words) for being able to articulate just what feminism should mean to so many people.

Amy Poehler on Feminism.
Amy Poehler on Feminism.

Don’t be afraid of feminism ladies and gents, be proud of its long and powerful history and be proud to call yourself a feminist because we are lucky to be here today. We are lucky to be following in the footsteps of men and women who are full of strength, integrity and a bravery I cannot even fully comprehend.

Remember, feminism is equality and equality is a great thing.

What do YOU think about feminism? Are you afraid of it? Do you want to know more about it? Tell me in the comments!

5 thoughts on “The Female Perspective: Mark Ruffalo and Feminism – Joy!

  1. Great post. I have so much respect for Mr. Ruffalo.

  2. I had respect for him before this, not I simply think he’s awesome!

  3. Excellent read. I just recently got into an argument with a young man about the concept of using labels like feminism, and that that just creates devices and whatnot. Tried explain to him that, if we don’t name things, we’re not communicating. Why it’s important to call yourself a feminist when you believe in everything it stands for. Without the label, there is no conversation.

  4. Reblogged this on untraum and commented:
    Excellent read. I just recently got into an argument with a young man about the concept of using labels like feminism, and that that just creates devices and whatnot. Tried explain to him that, if we don’t name things, we’re not communicating. Why it’s important to call yourself a feminist when you believe in everything it stands for. Without the label, there is no conversation.

  5. Thanks for the reblog and I totally agree, there needs to be conversation or a movement dies and feminism needs to be discussed and understood and women need to stop turning their backs on it, it’s more important than I think they realize.

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