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Today I came across a compilation video of women hitting men (after they supposedly hit the women first), I watched it with a dawning sense of annoyance. Not anger, but annoyance. The person who put together the video clearly is not versed in the difference between an angry person and a feminist.
Before I say more, here is the link to the video in question.
Be warned that the video includes violence and some foul language.
The video starts off harmless enough, showing a 1950’s “Manners” video about how women should let men help them, they like it! Fine. I can deal with that, seeing stuff like this from the days before the feminist movement make me laugh, it was a different time, a different world. We then fast forward to the 1970’s and how women simply want what men have always been able to have. That makes sense to me and it’s important to note, it’s not about being angry, it’s simply about wanting equality.
Then…well then, inexplicably, we start seeing women beating up on men, screaming at them, urging them into violence. I watched it with a growing sense of annoyance. These women are not feminists, they are angry. I think in today’s world people become confused between anger and feminism. If a women expresses distaste or dismay at something that is unfair, we call her an angry feminist. Even if that woman is well-spoken. Even if that woman is articulating a reasoned argument in a calm voice. A video like this only promotes the idea that all feminists are angry. That couldn’t be farther from the truth. It also confuses angry women with feminists.
Yes, there are angry feminists, of course there are. Just like there are angry men and women in every social movement around the globe. They are (hopefully) the minority but they often speak with the loudest voice. To create and post a video like this is unfair to women and feminists. We only see a brief moment in time, an argument that has no context. We see women losing control, pushing men (both literally and figuratively) until they get what they want, a punch or a slap so that they can then attack with a reason. So that they can then say “Well, he hit me first.”
It’s disgusting, it’s unfair and it’s NOT even close to a fair representation of women.
Anger is a totally different topic from feminism. An angry woman is not always a feminist, just like an angry black man is not always fighting for civil rights. There are extremists in every movement and they give the rest of us a bad name. It’s important that we remind people, calmly and rationally, that not every one of us is angry. Not every one of us is out to beat down our “male oppressors” and not every one of us assumes that all men deserve to be hit or persecuted.
I want it made abundantly clear, hitting (or any physical violence) is never okay. Words are far more powerful than fists can ever be.
To the person who created this video – shame on you for putting it out there that angry women are feminists. That nice guys don’t deserve to be commended for being nice, that nice guys don’t get the lady because they are “too nice”. I laughed at that because I was once told by a guy (a rather mean one it turned out) that I was “too nice” and that I would never be able to survive in this world. I’ll tell you what, he was wrong and I am quite happy and I’m still nice. This video promotes generic stereotypes. It doesn’t come close to touching on the real face of feminism Where are your calm women of power like Michelle Obama? Or Angelina Jolie or Gloria Steinem? Where are they in this mishmash of nonsense you call feminism?
I suggest that whoever created the video go back to school and learn a little bit about what it means to be an activist and what it means to just be angry.
What do YOU think? Sound off in the comments!