The Female Perspective: Why The Oscars Matter

Welcome! This blog is written by author J.L. Metcalf and will chat about comics, movies, garden gnomes, ghosts or even books and daily life. It is a place where I offer my ladylike perspective on anything and everything my brain can think of. 

I know, it seems like a ridiculous idea, that the Oscars matter. Here’s why I think it’s not as ridiculous as it sounds.

  • There was one acceptance speech about calling your parents, if they are alive, and telling them you love them.
  • There was one acceptance speech that talked about suicide.
  • The performance of “Glory” by Common and John Legend.
  • Patricia Arquette talked about equality for women.

Still not convinced? Let’s take a look at all of these. Point by point.

J.K. Simmons, star of the movie “Whiplash” won an Oscar and said the following:

And if I may, call your mom. Everybody — I’m told there’s like a billion people or so. Call your mom, call your dad. If you are lucky enough to have a parent or two alive on this planet, call them.

Don’t text, don’t e-mail.

Call them on the phone. Tell them you love them and thank them.

A simple, beautiful and truthful message of love. Don’t hesitate to tell the ones you love that you love them. Right now. Not later. Not when it’s too late. Now. A simple, but important message. So many of us wait until later. We always think there is enough time. The fact is, we have no idea how much time there is and newsflash, there will never be “enough” time.


Graham Moore won an Oscar and gave probably the bravest acceptance speech of the night. He talked about how, when he was 16, he tried to kill himself because he felt “different” from everyone else. He went on to say to all those kids who feel different or that they don’t belong that they do belong and that they need to “stay weird”. A perfect, beautiful sentiment that got expressed to billions of people last night, adults and kids who may feel different, lost or unwanted. There is always a place for them. I know how that feels. When I was young, I felt “different” and I was deeply confused and scared. I half-heartedly attempted suicide more than once. Luckily it never worked because I wouldn’t be where I am today. So I second Moore’s sentiments. Be patient, it gets better.

In case you're wondering, this is what bravery looks like.
In case you’re wondering, this is what bravery looks like.

John Legend and Common. I don’t even have the right words for how amazing they are. Watching their performance gave me chills. It brought Oscar audience members to tears and it reminded us all that the fight rages on. In Ferguson. In New York. Around the world. The fight for equality hasn’t ended simply because we have a black president. If anything, the fight has gotten fiercer and needs to be given voice in this way. Eloquently. Beautifully and honestly.

Click this link for the performance and their acceptance speeches.

Finally, we come to Patricia Arquette. She won an Oscar and gave a speech that brought Meryl Streep to her feet (among others). She made a point of saying that we need equality in he sexes. Women deserve equal rights, everywhere. Rock on Patricia. ROCK ON.


As silly and overblown as the Oscars are, it’s heart-warming to know that there are artists out there that take the opportunity to really speak from the heart and get important messages out there. Maybe they changed someone’s mind about equality or race or suicide. Maybe not. What matters is that their messages are all over the internet today and people who may not have seen the Oscars are seeing these words, spoken by admired celebs, and maybe it inspires them. Maybe it cheers them up or maybe it makes them see someone in a different way.

Maybe I’m putting too much hope into it all. I didn’t personally watch the Oscars last night, I prefer to catch the highlights the next day, but reading these stories today warmed my heart. Watching Common and John Legend perform “Glory” warmed my heart and gave me chills. This is what celebrity should be used for, to spread messages of love and peace. Of equality.

BONUS: And then there’s Lady Gaga singing a medley from “Sound of Music” – because, why not?

Did you watch The Oscars last night? What did you think? Tell me in the comments!

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