The Female Perspective: #LikeaGirl vs. #LikeaBoy

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I watched the Superbowl Sunday night. I like the Superbowl, especially when the Patriots are in it.  I am interested to see what the commercials are going to be and I honestly like watching football. I find it fascinating and fun. What I was amazed with this year was the utter lack of interesting commercials. There were maybe one or two in the four hours I watched the Superbowl that were worth a chuckle or a moment of my attention. Otherwise, they were pretty blah. The exceptions being the Nationwide commercial about children dying in household accidents (that one was horribly mis-placed Nationwide) and the #LikeaGirl ad by Always (see below).

Here’s my take on the commercial, they are trying to take back “like a girl” from something negative and turn it into something positive. They are trying to show us that young girls don’t realize that “like a girl” is meant negatively. OK, great, these are great ideas to put out there, especially during a four hour man match like the Superbowl. I had no issues with it being there. The issue I do have is with the newly founded hashtag, #LikeaBoy because some men found it offensive that women got a commercial all their own.

I’m sorry…but W H A T????? Seriously, what?

You are watching a FOUR HOUR FOOTBALL EXTRAVAGANZA and you get peeved because of one short commercial? This baffled me in more ways than one. Sorry guys, but the entire WORLD is full of inequality between men and women. To think that you are put off by one commercial to the point that you have to create a new hashtag and ask for your own commercial is more than childish, it’s completely asinine.

On the other hand…one tweet stood out to me,

Girls aren’t the only ones who have confidence issues get #LikeABoy trending

— paul (@Paul_Bog) February 2, 2015

Ahhhh….I see what you are saying (and that none of the other so-called “meninists” are saying. Men have issues too. Men feel insecure and sad and don’t like being told that they have done something, “like a girl”. Oh, OK, that I get. BUT, what that says is that there needs to be voice given to the insecurities all sexes, races and humans face. It doesn’t need to be broken up to men vs. women. It doesn’t have to be a passive aggressive Twitter argument that makes the men look like sad little babies with a boo-boo on their ego that needs massaging.

Do it like a girl, you know you wanna.
Do it like a girl, you know you wanna.

There doesn’t have to be a #LikaBoy, there needs to be a dialogue about how we are all scared and unsure about ourselves (especially during puberty). But what this ridiculousness has turned into is a fight between girls and boys and the boys are trying to pull our hair. Let’s not let them ladies, don’t give voice to this silly #LikeaBoy “movement”. Give voice instead to the fact that we all have issues and the “Like a Girl” commercial was not meant to slight boys, it was meant to shine a light on the inequalities in our world. And that the boys who found insult in it and felt the need to prove their worth because of it, relax guys, your masculinity is intact but maybe, just maybe, see this commercial as a way for you to start respecting women and their fight more. Because I gotta say, it’s not easy some days living in a world where you get catcalls for being “sexy” and then get called “bitch” and other horrible names because you ignore them. It’s not easy living in a world where men use your weight and your sexuality against you whenever possible.

Most of all, it’s not easy living in a world where ONE commercial during a FOUR HOUR MAN SPECTACLE has offended men to the point of petulance and Twitter rage. Come on guys, catch a clue. Understand that the commercial was made with young women in mind, to remind us to teach them that being a “girl” is not a bad thing at all. That women can in fact be strong, smart, sexy and do things “like a girl” without shame.


What do you think? Did you see the commercial? Your thoughts on #likeaboy vs. #likeagirl?

Sound off in the comments!

2 thoughts on “The Female Perspective: #LikeaGirl vs. #LikeaBoy

  1. I understand the perspective of this, but wrapped all night in the blah commercials of “let’s pick on guys,” and “Dads, you’re not needed here!” and the Always commercial, this one proved to be a slap in the face to all men. We do have insecurities, man and women. But since the 1960s and the 1970s, men, for the most part, have been relegated to dog-poo-on-a-shoe status. Even the Nissan commercial featuring Harry Chapin’s “Cat’s in the Cradle” showed that, gee, Dad, you’re good enough to not raise me, so getting me a new Maxima wipes away years of neglect? That’s what I’m driving at.

    When folded into the context of the entire evening–including how Lenny Kravitz only had less than 2 minutes of exposure to Katy Perry’s 19 during the HT show–the spot really justifies the #LikeABoy movement. Again, not to dismiss all of us having insecurities, this is to illustrate the pendulum swinging too far to the extreme to justify “girl power” without her Daddy making her feel like a princess–and her future husband, like a Queen.

    As for that iconic moment where Billie Jean King besting Bobby Riggs during the Battle of the Sexes tennis match … he’d beat her in previous sets, but the media ran with the set she’d won in to prop the feminist movement wrongly. Sure, I’m for equality. But if we all have equality in being insecure, how can be equal in differences? We can’t. Men need women. Women need men. Instead of trying to hold onto #LikeAGirl or #LikeABoy … we need a hashtag for #LikeHumanity.

    Sorry for mixing arguments; my mind runs fluid as such. But we’re more alike than different, and what is different should be celebrated, not maximized and scorned. We like muscles on a guy; they love our curves. They love how we’re their soft spots to fall after a hard day of slaying dragons to get money to provide; we love how they slay said dragons of life and are brave, valor, courageous, want to fight for our honor and protect us. That’s how we balance and compliment one another.

  2. I agree to a lot of what you say, and I think I am trying to make the same point, get rid of the boy and girl hashtags and do #likehumanity because that’s what it’s all about. That being said though, to try and say that 1 commercial during the Super Bowl is a “slap in the face” doesn’t ring true to me, the super bowl itself is an event geared towards men and the nights commercials were a refreshing (if slightly dull) change from the usual spectcle of half naked girls dancing about. GoDaddy for example, their commercial was really subdued for a change and normally they have the half naked ladies prancing about. Maybe we’re getting closer to equality than we think? That would be great.

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